At the burial of the seven people burnt alive in a North West shack, one of the pastors at the funeral made a declaration that women like to stay in abusive relationships. He said the abuse which most women experience started with a mere slap in the face and when they condone it, it graduates into a massive life threatening abusive relationship.
“It’s time to say enough is enough,” said Reverend Moagi Khunou.
“Women like to be abused; the abuse starts somewhere, with a small slap on the face and escalates to something extremely violent.”
The seven fire victims died when a shack that Mammy Mwale who allegedly jilted her boyfriend shared with her family was incinerated by her obsessed lover.
Rev. Khunou said women must shun abusive relationships or they might pay with their lives. He said in most cases involving domestic violence, women protected their abusers with hope that they will eventually change.
“Do not try to fool anyone by staying in a dead relationship because you will end up dead.”
He described the men as the heads of their respective families which makes it hard for things to work if the head is not in a good condition. “but if the head is malfunctioning, then there is no direction. It will never work, move out before it’s too late”.
Other speakers at the funeral service called on women to be “responsible” when choosing partners to avoid getting into abusive relationships.
Mammy Mwale whose over possessive boyfriend is suspected of starting the fire which killed her three children, mother, sister and two nieces at Reagile township in Koster had pain written all over her face.
The funeral of Elizabeth Mwale, 74, her daughter Christina, 36, her grandchildren Abram, 15, Samantha, 12, Refilwe, 10, Ofentse, 8, and three-year-old Precious Mwale took place on Tuesday.
The man with whom Mammy was in an abusive relationship with and who allegedly burnt her shack, killing her relatives have been arrested last week and charged with seven counts of murder and arson.
Also speaking at the service was Kgalagatsane Primary School principal Gladys Mothobi who encouraged the community of Reagile that it is up to them to shun irresponsible behaviour.
“No one can come from abroad and instill good relations among us.
“There must be a campaign in Reagile, God must give us wisdom to do what is right,” she said.
Kgetlengrivier local municipality mayor Kim Medupe described the death of the seven as a stupid and brutal incident that could have been avoided.
“We cannot have a society that buries innocent souls. We must go back to the basics,” she said.
A family member Jacky Segakweng lamented: “We are grieving and we can never understand what happened. Let us unite so that God can give us strength to understand what had happened.”
Meanwhile, the department of social development has promised to erect a house for the family as their own way of expressing their condolences.
May the souls of the departed rest in perfect peace.