King Mswati III of the Swaziland and head of the Swazi Royal Family looks at putting an end to the culture of divorce in marriages.
The Swazi king who spoke to the religious leaders and some other of his subjects during the weekend registered his concern over the issue of divorce in SA marriages and how the culture has affected most marriages when he said he would no longer support the practice in the land.
During the Easter service held at the Engabezweni Royal Residence on Saturday (April 15, 2017) King Mswati said marriage was a covenant with God hence once anyone marries, ‘there is no turning back.’
He was reported as saying that it was wrong for people to break agreements made with God and that in siSwati, there was no word for divorce.’
This directive from King Mswati follows a report from the office of the Attorney General who drafted the Marriage Bill of 2017, which carries five grounds for divorce and if passed to law, will replace the Marriage Act of 1964.
The new marriage bill of 2017, if passed into law, will make divorce easier for South African women.
But, in response to this, a Civil rights organization Swaziland Solidarity Network, said the king’s plan against divorce may become a law if he formally tables it.
The organization, however, noted that if King Mswati succeed with his anti-divorce plans, women who have been oppressed for too long will be affected.
“It is not necessarily a decree. However, given the vast powers that the king has it may sound as it is. Remember that he’s also a chairperson of the judiciary commission. I’m just imagining women going there to demand a divorce given that the judge himself will be worried about his job after they had to contradict their boss; in this case the king,” said Lucky Lukhele from the Swaziland Solidarity Network.
Women in Swaziland, have been greatly oppressed following the traditional Swazi law which reportedly allows their husbands treat them as children as they were mandated to live their lives devoted to their men and families.
A report on the State of the Population in Swaziland said that Swazi women were responsible for childbirth, raising the children and taking care of the entire family and are mandated to yield to their husband’s sexual demands as soon as they ask for it.
The survey also suggested that four in every 10 Swaziland women believe that a husband is justified in beating his wife because he is the head of the household.
Common Reasons People Get Divorced
It’s commonly argued that a high divorce rate is a new trend of a lazier generation that refuses to “stick it out” and make a marriage work.
As this could be true, there are several reasons why people get divorced. They include:
Getting in for the wrong reasons: This includes marrying for money, looks, sex, society and family pressure
Communication Gap: This happens when two people share a life together and yet are able t0 have a healthy communication as such they are unable to understand and try to meet the needs of each other.
Financial stress: When couples are not on the same page about how the finances are going to be handled in the family. They have differences in how much money each partner brings into the marriage and who has power more authority over the monies. This can wreak havoc on their sense of unity and ultimately their happiness.
Different priorities and interests: When couples have different interests and priorities and no one is ready to compromise with the other.
Trouble with family/in-laws: When couple fails to understand how to have good boundaries with family and how to relate with their family cultural or religious differences.
The role of friends: When couples fail to limit the role of their friends in their marriage. Most couples “forget” their single friends and single ways when they get married, while others spend much time with their friends than with their spouse.
Sex: Often couples struggle with different sex drives and different sexual appetites. This can really plague a couple as they try to get their needs met. In addition, at different stages of life our sexual needs can change which can lead to feelings of confusion and rejection.