Anyone who has been in a relationship knows that getting over a break up is never easy. However, it is not impossible.
While it may take time and a little bit of effort, it is a lot better to put in the required effort to get over an ex than remain hung up on them. Remaining in love with someone after a break up is never ideal and can lead to a lot of unwanted complications.
There is no exact science to it, there are a few ways you can speed up the process. So if you have ever found yourself wondering how to get over a breakup, here are 8 ways to help you out.
1. Unfriend Him/Her
When your relationship is over, no matter much of a great guy he was or how cool a girl she was, staying friends with them is never a good idea, keeping in touch with their friends is an even worse one.
What you need is time… not a friendship. Don’t just unfriend them in real life, unfriend them on social media too. While you might think that’s a tad bit immature, the truth is that it’s not, it is actually a highly effective coping mechanism.
You don’t need to see random reminders of your ex popping up on your timeline while you’re actively working to get over them, it simply does not work like that.
2. Have A Drink With Friends
If you feel the need to mourn your relationship with a drink or two, never do it alone. Invite a few friends over, or only your best friend if you don’t want a crowd – the pair of you can stay indoors and have a few drinks while binge watching your favorite comedy shows.
You can go out with your friends, hit your favorite spots and have a great time. The upbeat music and kinetic atmosphere will no doubt have a positive impact on your mood. This is definitely a starting step to getting over ‘the one that shall not be named’.
3. No Drunk Texting
While going out to have a drink with your friends is a good idea, drunk texting is not. In fact, it is very very bad. If they don’t respond to your text, it might leave you feeling worse than when the night started and if they do, who knows what they’ll say. If they say something unkind, you are right back to where you started.
If they do say something kind and favorable, it might reignite the feelings you’re working hard on getting rid off. So, by all means, avoid drunk texting at all costs.
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4. Hit The Gym
This might sound vain but there is nothing as effective as getting you in a good place after your break up as your ‘revenge body’. After a break up, if you decide to begin working out or going on a diet, you’ll find that you become more interested in seeing results than thinking of your ex.
The time and thoughts you’d have put in reminiscing about the times you had is better spent on ensuring that you are sticking to your diet.
Besides that, once you start seeing changes in your body and realizing what you are physically capable of, you begin to feel proud and love yourself even more. You completely take your mind off your ex once you start focusing on you.
5. Have A Good Cry, Then Get Over It
Here’s the truth, getting over a break up is never easy – if it were, there wouldn’t need for a post about how to get through it. So it’s okay if you want to cry about it – a broken heart is no child’s play.
It is actually advisable to cry as much as you want about it but as soon as soon as you’re done mourning the loss of the relationship, get up and move on from it. Don’t keep going back to your memories and revisiting your unhappy emotional state. It will not help you move on faster but it would instead keep you chained up to feelings you would be best getting rid off.
6. Distract Yourself
Get a hobby, join a book a club, focus on your work – just busy yourself doing those things you’ve been meaning to do for a while. Once you busy yourself by picking up a new hobby of getting involved in literally anything from volunteer work to binge-watching a series, you’ll realize you have less time to think about your ex.
Not just that but you also focus your energy on your new undertaking and you invest your time and emotions in there, once this is set into motion, you steadily give less and less thoughts to your ex.
7. Don’t Be In A Hurry To Date
I know you’ve probably heard the phrase “The only way to get over someone is to get under someone new”. However, if you force yourself to rebound before you’re ready, you’ll create an unnecessary complication which you honestly don’t need at this time in your life.
You’ll find yourself misdirecting the feelings you’re trying to get rid off onto your rebound or you will find yourself always comparing your new partner to your ex and these are not even the worst case scenarios. Use the period to work on being a better version of yourself so you can be emotionally ready when the time for your next relationship comes around.
8. Never Blame Yourself
One thing you should never do once a relationship is over is to blame yourself. Don’t think, I should have done this more or I should have been more like that. All of that helps no one. First of all, it is simply not true – if a relationship was meant to last then it would have. Because it didn’t last, you should probably come to terms with the fact that it wasn’t meant to be and that there are better things on the horizon.
Focusing on a previous relationship does nothing but keep you from moving on to future. So don’t hold yourself back, don’t blame yourself for the breakup…just don’t; keep in mind that it requires both parties to make the relationship work. This is probably the most important step to keep in mind if you pondering how to get over a breakup.