Keeping a typical relationship alive can take quite a bit of work to keep things burning hot; but for a long distance relationship, that requires a certain level of special skill set.
Many people might try to warn you about all the woes of being in a long distance relationship but where there’s no risk, there’s no reward.
You might think it’s going to take a lot to keep a keep a long distance relationship hot and alive, but here are a few tips that can help:
1. Don’t Spend Too Much Time Together
This might seem confusing as you’re currently not spending any time together because you’re in different locations, however, we’re talking about excessive communication in this case. Spending every minute together on phone calls, text messages, Skype, Facebook and Instagram will likely cause the relationship to burn out quickly.
Tip: Get a hobby instead, spend time with friends and loved ones, start going to the gym. Do something that will keep you occupied and then you tell your significant other about it when you talk. Often but not excessive.
2. Keep Your Communications Creative
Ensure to communicate every day (just not every minute of every day). Send good morning texts and good night texts always to let them know they are the first thing on your mind when you wake up and the last thing on your mind before you go to bed.
Send each other little video clips and audio clips on Whatsapp and Skype, updating them about your life and everything that is happening to and around you.
This will definitely make them feel like they are with you. Video calls are also one of your best options, so do it any chance you can.
3. Spice It Up
A little sexual tension is very important between couples. One best way to ensure you’re always on their mind is to add a little ‘naughtiness’ to the conversation every now and again. Teasing text messages and sexy puns are definitely a fun way to go.
4. Don’t Do Things You Wouldn’t Do If They Were Around
If you wouldn’t go out clubbing with your friends or have a simple lunch with that cute guy or girl from your office when your significant other is around, then don’t do it while they are away, it’s just simple long distance etiquette.
These undeniably dangerous scenarios make the relationship needlessly complicated when it doesn’t have to be. Just stay away from things that will make your partner upset and ask the same of them.
5. Do Things Together In A Long distance Relationship
You can both get a copy of the same book at the same time and read it ‘together’ and discuss it when you’re done. Or you can watch a movie online at the same time while on the phone together so it can feel like you’re in the same room with each other.
If this is too time demanding (although you should make time for your loved one), then you can recommend movies you just saw or books you just read or some series you’re currently enjoying to them. This keeps them ‘present’ in your life and gives you a lot more to talk about.
6. Define The Relationship
Yes, the relationship was as defined as it could have been when you two were together but a long distance relationship is basically entering new territory.
You need to know how long they will be away for and decide if you can wait that long, are you both going to remain exclusive, are you allowed to go on dates with other people?
All these questions need to be answered before the relationship can propel forward. Be sure nothing is lost in translation.
7. Remain Honest
This goes without saying, honesty is key for every relationship. Talk about your feelings, jealousy, insecurities, all of it as soon as they come up. Don’t try to hide things from your partner. It just causes unnecessary complication and many awkward conversations (because you can’t be real with them).
The best part of being in a relationship is being able to be yourself with them, wholly and completely, and still feel loved. With that in mind, there’s no reason to keep your emotions and discomforts a secret.
Okay, this might seem a little unconventional, but there’s nothing like a little scandalous news on your friends and family to keep your partner coming back to the conversation. Besides the gossip of it all, just being kept updated on both friends and families is a nice way to keep your partner feeling included.
9. Know Each Other’s Schedules
Knowing when each is other is busy and available helps you call at the right time. You don’t want to call your significant other when he or she is in class or in the middle of a meeting. You don’t also want to feel like a bother when you call at only the incorrect times. keeping track of their schedule definitely goes a long way.
10. Visit As Often As You Can
This is a lot easier when you’re in the same country but when you’re in different countries or even different continents, it can prove a little harder but it should not deter you. If you can visit every three months or every six months or even once every year, do this. While talking on the phone can be fun and what not, nothing beats seeing your love in person.
11. Stay Positive
This might be the hardest thing of all to do but it is also perhaps the best thing you can do. Remaining positive against all odds is not only inspiring but motivational.
It’s hard when you feel lonely or can’t go on dates or when you come home to an empty apartment. But one simple trick for remaining positive is to keep the big picture in mind.
When you remember why you’re doing this in the first place, that always gives a semblance of peace and a restoration of hope in your relationship.