One fact of life is that we will always be our own toughest critics. In order to achieve what we must out of life, we will judge ourselves a lot more harshly than we judge others and a lot more harshly than others judge us.
As a result of this, there are a lot of times we have been wrong about the things we tell ourselves. If you don’t believe us, see for yourself: here is our list of 6 lies you tell yourself…about yourself
You Are Not Beautiful Enough
Especially in this age of social media, we are constantly seeing photos of people with expensively made-up faces alongside the hashtag ‘natural’, we also see fellow social media users flaunt their ‘fitfam’ perfect body and suddenly we feel ugly compared to these people.
Well guess what – you’re not alone. Those people whose beauty and bodies you envy are also in the exact position as you are in, envying those of others they came across on social media as well. If we let this cycle continue, the standard of beauty will always be unattainable.
Truth is, when we lie to ourselves that we’re not beautiful enough, we start to believe it. Never let social media or anyone else determine how you should feel about yourself. And why shouldn’t you tell yourself you’re beautiful when it is the truth.
Only you can decide for yourself what your standard of beauty is; who cares if you have a tummy, or pimples or aren’t a member of team lightskin – no one but you can decide whether you are beautiful or not. So it’s time to stop telling yourself that lie.
You Are Not Strong Enough
Next on this list of lies you tell yourself is that you are not strong enough. Here’s the thing, everyone goes through ups and downs, and through some really unbelievably difficult situations. When faced with those situations, it is quite easy to tell yourself that you are not strong enough or that you might not make it through.
With that in mind, take a moment to think about the previous year in your life, or the year before that or anytime you’ve faced some difficult situations – think about all the truly hard things you have faced – now at that point in time, you probably thought you were not strong enough to get through whatever situation you were facing; now look at you today, you overcame it. So whatever difficult situations you face in this life, never tell yourself you are not strong enough to get through. Instead, say to yourself – ‘I will make it through’ – and then you give it time. With these two strategies, you will watch yourself overcome any obstacles life throws at you.
You Are Not Smart Enough
Maybe you are not the traditional straight ‘A’ student or you didn’t get high grades in school, this doesn’t mean you are not smart or intelligent. There are several reasons why people don’t excel in school and book smarts in only one measure of intelligence.
There are other ways to measure intelligence and that is why we should not limit ourselves what whatever grades on a paper say. Thinking you are not smart enough, you eventually believe this and then you allow this incorrect assumption limit you all facets of your life.
Here’s the thing, if you truly believe you are not smart enough, ask yourself, how can I be smarter – read more books, watch more talks and documentaries. Keep asking yourself ‘how do I improve myself’? and then applying it. Before you know it, you’ll be leagues ahead of your peers.
You Are Not Good Enough
Why in the first place would you believe this about yourself? Because someone else said so? Well, they lied to you. No one has the right to tell you you’re not good enough, and you don’t have the right to believe it.
As we grow older, day by day, it is our responsibility to fight our insecurities – they won’t just go away, we have to force them out. If we let them fester, they will grow and bring us down. We have to keep reminding ourselves that we are good enough and we deserve every good fortune that comes our way – we have to do this constantly if we don’t want to settle for less than we deserve.
We should never ever think that we are not good enough for anyone or anything, these are the kinds of insecurities you would not love to see in the ones closest to you and as such, they should not be in you either, because they are simply not true.
You Are Not Enough
You are enough; in fact you are more than enough. Never think of yourself as less than you are. A common lie you tell yourself is that you are not enough for your boyfriend or girlfriend, you are not enough for your parents, you are not enough for your job, or you are not enough for your family. It is what it is – a lie. You are more than enough and that is the truth. You are amazing as you are, perfect as you are, beautiful as you are and so much more.
It is rather unfortunate that people think they ought to be more than they are to be satisfied or happy. Here’s the thing: if you want to improve yourself, do it. If you want to travel more, learn more, become more, eat more, work out more, dance more or laugh more, then go ahead and do it all. Not because you think it will make you ‘more’ or better somehow but because new experiences and new choices enrich us and we all deserve to add a little flavor to our lives.
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You Can’t Do It
This is undeniable, there have been many situations in your life where you have probably said to yourself, ‘I can’t do it’. This is a lie you tell yourself over and over again, perhaps. When you say to yourself, you can’t do it (whatever it is), you actively stop yourself from doing it and achieving your goals.
No matter how hard things are once you tell yourself you are capable of doing it, no matter how difficult it gets, you’ll find yourself overcoming even the most difficult of challenges. It is said that we are our toughest critic but people rarely ever tell us that are supposed to be our biggest cheerleaders as well.
If we don’t motivate ourselves to go after the things we want and to achieve our goals then who will? There is nothing you can’t do once you put your mind to it. So stop with these lies you tell yourselves and become your own biggest cheerleader. It’s never too late to change, you can always start now, yes right now. After all, winning starts with beginning.