The Necessary Skill Of Guarding Against Date Rape

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Date Rape: Since the dawn of time, the strong have taken advantage of the weak, some would even say ‘that’s just the way life is’; even in nature the stronger animals prey on their weaker counterparts.

It’s such a pity that some humans deem it fit to prey on others in the form of date rape, but it’s a very tangible reality. A girl has to know how to fend for herself and these tips can go for anyone who could potentially be the victim of this gruesome crime.

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Before we get down to the nitty-gritty details, here’s a brief explanation of the whole concept of date rape; it occurs when there is non-consensual activity between two people who might have had a prior relationship, but in the event that the two did not have any form of relationship prior to the violation, it is called acquaintance rape.

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It usually takes place at bars, parties, clubs and occasionally restaurants; in a nutshell, any social gathering where a drink could be spiked is a potential date rape hub. Before we move on to the steps to guard against this evil, here is something we all need to get straight.

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People are not sexually assaulted because they were ‘wasted’ or ‘tipsy’, because they walked home alone or because of the way they dress, rather they are assaulted because someone decided to commit an abominable act against them. So there’s no blaming the victim for being at the wrong place when the assailant is to blame for giving into animalistic urges.

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Ways To Guard Against Date Rape

  • Try As Much As Possible Not To Be Alone In Potential Date Rape Zones

It is true that we don’t walk around expecting to get raped the next second, but in some certain areas and situations, it would be useful to make use of something called The Buddy System. In the event that you’re attending a party, going

In the event that you’re attending a party, going for a concert or going clubbing, it’s always better to go in groups; wolves are always stronger in a pack.

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Anyway, this would really help because you’d have someone or a couple of people looking out for you and the notion that you have to look out for them too would make you a bit more alert. In some cases, you could be a one on one date, the least you could do is let one person know where you are and what time you would be expected to return, which leads us to the next point.



  • Tell Everybody Your Business

This doesn’t mean you have to go blabbing about your whereabouts to every Tom, Dick and Harry that would listen, but when you are headed somewhere, for instance on a date, be sure to tell at least one person where you are going and what time you would be expected to return.

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This would really help in the case of any fishy business, at least your whereabouts would be known and in the advent of you having to leave there, a perimeter would easily be established.

  • If You Weren’t Watching Your Drink, Ditch It

Now this is paramount, in any social situation you have to watch your drink, because we have got some lazy rapists out there these days. They do not even want to struggle with you or receive any resistance on your part, so chances are that they would opt for the ‘drugging ‘ route.

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To avoid this altogether, watch your drink religiously, if at any point in time you lost track of your drink then the best thing to do is to ditch it. It’s better to spend a couple of bucks on a new one or just get another one (if it’s free booze) than to end up living with the reality that someone violated your body.

  • Learn Basic Self Defense

We have gotten to a point that this is necessary for everyone in today’s world, you honestly never know when such skills would become necessary, especially because these days, the sexual predators out there feel more entitled than ever. Take a basic

Take a basic self-defense class, you would feel better knowing that in a really bad case scenario, you would be more than able to defend yourself.

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It may not only be to defend yourself against rape, but any other social vice that you could be a potential victim of.

  • Trust Your Instincts And Speak Up If You See Something Weird

This is more for other people than yourself, there have been many situations where people have sensed that something was off about a situation and walked away from a gruesome crime waiting to happen. Be your brother’s keeper, in the event that you see anything sketchy, trust your instincts and try to do something about it.

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What if you are wrong about it? Well, it’s better to be wrong than to hear the next day that something happened and you had the chance to stop it. Let’s end this rape culture that is threatening to take over our world, so we can make the world a better place for generations to come.

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